Keep moving forward.
I know it is tough. It can feel totally not worth it at times. But it is. Clarity comes through engagement.
If you are curious if you are doing it right, or doing it right, keep going...ask different questions. How would it feel if I did it this way? Or how would it feel if I did it that way? What would it look like if I tweaked it a bit here?
See, when I was faced with a disappointment, setback, heartbreak, loss of any sort, I would shrink. I used those as further proof that I was not good enough.
I would spiral into shame, guilt and hang out in the pool of unworthiness.
I have learned over the years that these external things do not have to change my internal world. I have choice, control and agency in the way that I choose to behave, react and heal.
Through this I started to take back my own belonging. I began to realize that my worth was not the size of my jeans, how much people liked me, how "positive" I was. My own worth belonged to me and it was mine to claim.
Your belonging, worthiness and badassery is yours to claim.
A few ways I started this reclamation or coming home process
1. I started to really get into my body. How did my body react when things didn't go my way? When I experienced heart break, loss, disappointment? How did my 5 sense experience it?
2. What was I telling myself? What phrases, words, opinions would I repeat over and over again?
3. Acknowledging whatever was going on..."I see you fear, anger, resentment" "It is such a bummer that business thing didn't work out" etc..
4. Getting curious. How can I see this differently? What else is available to me? How can I shift what I am saying?
These are the early steps...the key is exploring, get curious and seeing your bodies response.
This Saturday, I would love to see you at my workshop Drop The Mom Guilt, info and tickets in the bio!