2nd graphic by @the.love.therapist , depicting the process of moving beyond the comfort zone.
In the Taoist symbol of yin and yang, you'll notice a white dot within the black paisley and a black dot within the white paisley, symbolizing that there's always a little bit of order within chaos, and always a bit of chaos within order.
The border between the two sides represents the ideal--the optimally meaningful life, where you have achieved balance between both order and chaos, able to ebb and flow with the tides of both.
Too rooted in order, we become infantilized adults who remain in the safety of our comfort zone, never achieving meaningful goals, never growing, never pushing toward self-actualization--which is to say, reaching our full potential.
This is where the role of chaos comes in. We need to experience challenge in order to realize growth. But if we're too rooted in chaos, we're only in constant survival, which is not sustainable for any human in the long term.
Life is about finding the balance between both. We must learn to appreciate, accept and surrender to both and push beyond the limits of our comfort zone.
It's taking responsibility for ourselves, defining our values, pursuing virtue, and pursuing goals so that our life has direction, meaning and purpose. The pursuit of those goals provides the right amount of chaos to stretch and challenge us into growth.
Making our "why" (our reasons for our goals) bigger than us connects us into the greater whole through personal contribution, creating a sense of greater significance to and within the world.
Jordan Peterson says "You can tell when you're [in balance] because you're secure enough to be confident, but not so secure that you're bored. And you're interested enough to be awake, but not so interested that you're terrified. When you're in a state like that, when you find things interesting and meaningful, then time slips by you and you're no longer self-conscious."
If your life is feeling stagnant and without purpose, I highly recommend JP's book "12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos". I also suggest you reach out to me and let's talk about how I can support you on your healing journey.