Today, like many days, started off with one of several snoozes on my alarm clock, a much needed cup of coffee, and the disaster of a bathroom from bath time the night before.
Still — with a couple tweaks to my agenda, I was able to knock out a few important tasks, have a couple healthy meals, tidy the living and dining rooms, and still make time for a little DIY project which always fuels my soul and does wonders for my energy.
Towards the evening, a friend stopped by to say hello. A little while into our convo, she shared a bit about her hesitation about taking the dive into motherhood, and how she couldn’t believe how I did it all on my own. I explained to her how I didn’t.. I had the help of friends and family, and while some days were certainly challenging, it was never more that I could handle because my faith reminds me that I’m never doing it alone.
To anyone considering parenting, and wondering whether it’s possible and realistic for you, wherever you are in you life right now, here’s what’s helped me as single parent of one incredibly alert boy, a very active dog, in a world of unpredictability:
Find your routine. Whatever makes you feel good, fights off anxiety, or keeps you sane, start there. For me, it’s making my bed, having a hot cup of coffee, a hot protein packed meal, a few minutes of meditation to start my day.
Be The Optimist. Cut yourself some slack. You’re not going to get it all done or get everything right everyday. Maybe not for a while. But that’s okay. It’s not about doing it all and getting It right every time. It’s about accepting the fact that you’re learning, like every mother once was, and being able to pick up where you left off or start over the next day.
Live in gratitude. Appreciate yourself for who you are and what you’ve done, no matter how simple or how small.
Celebrate yourself and your small successes. No matter what happens, you’re their only mom/dad and there’s no one in the world who can be a better you.